Whilst many argue that the nature of BDSM and the activities of Fifty Shades’ Mr Grey are somewhat different or even inaccurate, Friday’s release of Fifty Shades Darker has sparked the need for us to address this area.
So, it you’re keen to enter the world of BDSM but not too sure where to start, we’ve put together a whistle-stop beginner’s step-by-step guide to help you introduce a bit of bondage between the sheets. We’ve teamed up with a BDSM enthusiast to gain a real-life insight into the wonderful world of bondage and how you can take those all-important first steps.
What Is BDSM?
BDSM stands for bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism.
It Doesn’t Have to Hurt!
A common misconception about bondage is that it has to hurt. Yes, BDSM can involve elements of pain if that is what two consenting adults want to get out it, but it can also be a deeply passionate, loving and highly sensual activity. Bondage can enrich a relationship and build even more trust between the people taking part.
Get Talking
The first step for bondage newcomers is to get talking to your partner. Find out what kinds of bondage or BDSM you would both like to try; after all, the world of BDSM is pretty vast, and there are plenty of directions you could decide to take it in once you get started. If you're not sure, get searching online and start seeing what catches your eye. Discovering what you both fancy trying is half the fun and can be a turn-on in itself.
Listen to Your Body
Don't be afraid to listen to your body and follow your gut instinct. When it comes to some types of bondage, experimentation is needed just to find out if you enjoy the feelings and to see what level you want to take it to. Listening to your own body and how it reacts to different situations is a great way to see what you enjoy and how far you'd feel comfortable taking things.
Start Soft
Starting with a soft pair of handcuffs is a great way to begin with experimentation. Leather straps can be far more comfortable than metal ones. Floggers are a great starting point and are available in low-intensity right the way up to high-intensity and specialist once you get started and know where you want to take things. They give a gentler sensation, and are a great starting point without creating too much pain. They will also get you into the swing of using something in the bedroom.
Sex, no matter what type it is, is all about having fun and being intimate. Whether you’re going straight out and buying a flogger or raiding your wardrobe for a tie to start off, relax and have fun with it, and we are sure you will have a great time!
