Masochism is defined as the tendency to derive sexual gratification from one's own pain or humiliation. It is the enjoyment of an activity that appears to be painful or tedious. Masochism is not a singular condition, but rather a spectrum as different people experience different extents of masochism.
In most cases, Masochism is simply considered as another part of one’s fantasies and rendered harmless. To be evaluated as problematic the behaviors, urges, or fantasies of a person must impair his occupational, social, physical, or other parts of their life, causing significant distress.
Such masochistic tendency depends upon personal preferences of individuals, and thereby vary greatly. For instance, many people like to be tied up with handcuffs and whipped, a part of BDSM - Bondage, Domination, Submission, Masochism. Others get turned on by words only i.e. when they are verbally humiliated.
However, some are aroused by even dangerous and severe acts of masochism such as suffocation, choking, asphyxiation, physical pain, and so on. Nevertheless, there are many false notions and perceptions of Masochism. The following list sheds light on some of them:
1. More often than not, Masochists abide by a limit and always take safety into account. Researches have indicated that among people who practice masochism, a very small number of people have ever got hurt. Even in the cases where an injury occurred, it was a result of poor judgment or an accident.
2. If practiced properly and matched correctly, a masochist and a sadist can compliment each other, making the ideal sexual couple who can have a considerably better sexual life. In fact, one of the prime challenges of a masochist is to find a partner who is equally sadist, in order to compliment and participate in their own desires.
3. Usually, masochists tend to be people who are well-educated and well-earning, mostly from the upper-middle class. Also, the number of masochists heavily outnumber the number of masochists, according to multiple studies in the last few decades.
4. Masochism is more common in men than in women. That is, men are more likely to engage in acts which reduce their manly status and degrade their integrity for sexual arousal. Moreover, men prefer more serious forms of masochism, like being forced to kiss their wife’s foot, while women prefer lighter forms of masochism like spanking and such.
As long as there is no physical injury and no one is getting hurt, there is nothing wrong with consensual masochism. We believe everyone has their own fetish and desires, and exploring them will passion is a must!