BONDAGE! There, we said it. And we’re sure you didn’t even bat an eyelid.

That’s because what was once a taboo confined to novels and 17th-century artwork has in recent years been plunged into the mainstream thanks to releases of the Fifty Shades phenomenon.

You’re Not Alone

The next time your mind wonders into the world of whips and handcuffs, know you’re not alone. It’s all about discovering what makes you tick, and it can bring couples closer together and even inject passion and excitement into tired relationships. So, if you’re getting turned on by thoughts of spanking paddles, know this isn’t strange and you are not alone.

Bondage Can Enhance Trust

Using bondage in the bedroom can help to enhance feelings of trust, love and passion. Performing real BDSM requires love, care and respect. “The care and respect for each other to trust someone enough to let them make you vulnerable, it’s very powerful,” observes our enthusiast.

Why Have Silk When You Can Have Nylon?

Silk ropes came to the forefront of people's minds after their appearance in Fifty Shades. But before spending a fortune online ordering silk rope, there are plenty of cheaper alternatives. Good-quality, cheap nylon rope can be purchased from any hardware store. It is smooth to the touch and therefore less damaging to the skin.

Choosing the right rope is all about what excites you visually. After all, the image of the rope around your partner's wrists or ankles can be just as stimulating as performing the act, so it needs to be right. Traditional hard, woven rope is a popular choice but it can be more painful than softer nylon and can leave marks. This might be something you’re after, but it’s good to have an idea of the different types out there before you start buying.

Tempt Each Other with Temperatures

Experimenting with hot and cold temperatures is a great way to see how your bodies react and can heighten arousal. Whether it’s melting ice cubes or experimenting with hot wax (with caution!), temperature play is a teasing way to see how your bodies respond!

Restraint Can Enhance Sexual Pleasure

It may not be to everyone’s taste, but restraint is all about being limited on movement and held in one position. The feeling of being powerless and under someone else's control can be very erotic and really enhance sexual pleasure.

Experiment All You Want

Before going all-out and raiding B&Q for heavy-duty rope, there are plenty of objects kicking around the house that you could use to experiment with being tied up. Anything from a dressing-gown tie to a normal tie or even a belt can work wonders for wrists or ankles. If you fancy trying out a few gags but are unsure where to start, a small pair of trainer socks with a tie wrapped around your face can create a ball gag effect.

This is a great way to see if you enjoy the sensation before buying a ball gag. Using your imagination is a fun and playful way for couples to take baby steps into trying bondage, and it doesn’t need to be expensive. A plastic kitchen spatula can make for a perfect spanking paddle. Being put over someone’s knees and spanked is bondage that requires no expense! Why bother splashing the cash when you can try these items?

So, is bondage on the menu of your bedroom tonight?