Any relationship is based on many different factors, and none of those factors can be ignored. As much as emotional connect, physical connections between the two are also important. Sex is a basic human need and more so, keeps the spark alive. Our bodies are made to crave physical contact (thanks hormones and pheromones) and that’s true irrespective of the gender. However, a man’s body is way different from a woman’s body. There’s a saying that goes “a woman’s foreplay starts from the day before” and that is true. It is difficult to understand female arousal. There are a few things you can try if your lady isn’t “feeling like it” for quite a while, and we list them below.


  • Talk about it
  • You feel the distance, talking about it is the first step. One should be open about their feelings with their partner. Discuss where the problem could be because major reasons for any problem in sexual arousal can be psychological. Stress, fatigue, anxiety, or any psychological stressor can be at the root of your issue. Once the problem is figured out, both of you can work together to find the solution.

  • Understand and support them
  • Your partner isn’t comfortable talking about it yet, it’s okay. Give them space and make them feel “at home”. Tell them how you feel, compliment them, make them feel needed. A lot of times women tend to lose their confidence and go into a downward spiral of self-doubt, simply because of hormones fucking with their minds. Patience is the key, lads.

  • Be a little more generous 
  • Say that you can’t figure out a particular reason, or that they’re a complete mystery, what then? Well, pampering someone with some extra sweetness or the things that they like never seems to fail. Put in some effort and thought for your sweetheart and it will be acknowledged.

  • Try new things
  • There's nothing more tedious than a routine. Anything that falls into a routine can get uninteresting. Try to switch things up, experiment with new styles, foreplay, and/or techniques to keep the spice just right.

  • Be bold
  • We’re talking about experimenting, we can’t leave behind sex toys and tools that are specifically designed to keep you engaged. They fuel the desire and our brains signal our bodies to react to the stimulus accordingly. From vibrators to lubricants, there’s a huge variety of things you can add to your sex life to take it to another level.

  • Let them decide 
  • You’ve tried everything and still don’t seem to reach their sweet spot, then its best you let them take the wheel. Adjust to their systems and once you have them interested and comfortable again, you can decide a middle ground that works best for both of you.

  • Let go
  • Despite all our efforts, things come to an end. The best we can do in that situation is accepting the facts gracefully and let go. If they’ve lost interest in the person and not the act, then there is nothing you can practically do, and forcing them to stay in a relationship that they do not want anymore will only be hurtful to both of you.